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Two Bizarre Phone Calls; Four Staples in His Head; and A Remote Control Car Stuck in Her Hair…Just A Couple of Reasons I Should Never Leave My House

AUTHOR: | POSTED: 07/14/14 1:35 PM
CATEGORIES: Blog, college, From The Files of You Can't Make This Sh*t Up

My sister-in-law, Jo Ann, and I have a lot of repetitive conversations.  One of them always starts with, “If I die please promise me …”.  I’ve filled in the blank with making her promise SHE’LL pick out my casket attire;  SHE’LL make sure my house is clean before my wake; and–as should’ve been the case this past Saturday–SHE’LL supervise anytime Sean feels the need to cut one of our daughter’s hair.

Why was Sean cutting Mary Kate’s hair?

Well, let me start from the beginning.

Ryan is searching for colleges.   He’ll begin his senior year in August and in an attempt to get our parental ducks in a row we have scheduled four college visits before the academic year begins.  Early in June Ry and I set off on a two night road trip to visit Indiana University in Bloomington, and my alma mater, Miami University in Oxford, Ohio.  Both schools have stellar business programs–which is what Ryan wants to study. One of the schools fit his criteria.  He wants a “big school”.  One where he can earn a reputable degree AND have fun attending football and basketball games.  If you know anything about Miami, you know that it’s football and basketball teams are not all that great.  I admit it.  I kind of forced him to look.  But damn.  The Farmer School of Business at Miami?  Well, it doesn’t get a whole lot better than that…and it’s in-state, too.

Needless to say.  He loved IU.

Even though he was impressed with the possibility of being a Hoosier we are doing our due diligence.  That’s why this past Saturday the two of us trekked to Columbus, to visit THE Ohio State University.  When I told Sean I’d scheduled the admissions tour for a Saturday he was excited.  With Ryan and I gone, he’d have a day to himself with the girls.

I know.  I’m lucky.  He’s that kind of dad.

I’m sure he had all kinds of fun, “hey-girls…Mom’s out of town so we can do all that stuff she doesn’t like for the next eight hours” activities planned.  Unfortunately, the morning didn’t turn out as he’d hoped.  It all started to go south when–in true Sean form– he was running late for MK’s cross country practice.  As the story goes he was in a hurry, buckled the girls into their car seats, threw the twin’s stroller in the back of the Suburban and in his haste… slammed his head in the door.

Let me repeat that, HE slammed his OWN head in HIS car door.

I’m just not really sure how that’s even physically possible, and at the dinner table last night he admitted that he’s not all that sure how it happened either.  Regardless, he gashed his head something fierce.  (i.e., blood covering his hands and dripping down his face.)

Sorry for the gory details, but I’m painting the picture for you in order to foreshadow the shock of what he did next.

Because Sean is a runner and he loves all things running; and because this was only MK’s second cross country practice…which is about running; he grabbed a towel and drove her to practice.

I’m sure it was quite a scene.  Sean arrived at the park.  There were 45 other kids there…with their non-bleeding parents…and he jogged into the activity as if nothing was wrong…except the bloody towel on his head was kind of a dead give-away that things weren’t quite right.

This episode was the topic of the first bizarre phone call.

*****

Ryan and I toured OSU and I’m happy to report, he also LOVED it.  This is good.  Now he has two potential schools for a college education.  It was a two and a half hour presentation and walking tour that concluded with he and I crawling to our car in hopes of getting to the nearest restaurant.  Like I said.  We loved the school.  What was less than optimal was the timing of the tour.  It required us to skip lunch.   We were famished and when Ryan is hungry he’s crabby.  And, when I’m hungry, I’m bitchy (And when I say I’m bitchy let me clarify that being pregnant and hungry takes me to a whole ‘nother level of bitchy.  I was REALLY bitchy.)  So, after two huge subs from Potbelly’s followed with a plethora of sides that we just couldn’t resist, we were comfortably nursing food comas on the drive home.  That’s when the next bizarre call came in.

When I saw the phone ring I figured it was Sean telling me he was finally relenting and going to urgent care.  After all, according to all our texts since the 9:30 am head slamming incident, he was still bleeding.

Sample text….

Me:  You need stitches.

Sean:  Maybe.  I’d rather just take a nap.

Me:  A nap isn’t going to stop your head from bleeding.

Sean:  I know.  I think I’ll just take the girls to the park.

Ugh.

On the bright side the next phone call had nothing to do with his head.  Unfortunately, it had everything to do with Mary Kate’s hair…and a remote control car.  Hey…I said it was going to be bizarre.

Drew:  Mom?  (Said in that daunting tone that means something’s wrong.  Really wrong.)

Me:  What’s wrong?

Drew:  Um.  Well…MK was playing with the Strawberry Shortcake remote control car and she got it stuck in her hair.  Like really stuck.  

Me:  What?  How?

Of course, no one cared to explain.  And as I processed exactly what he was saying I realized I could here MK crying in the background.  I couldn’t make out exactly what she was saying but it sounded a lot like, “It hurts!”  followed promptly by repeated requests for her father to put down the scissors.

Sean has scissors?  Holy Sh*t.

Me:  Is Dad trying to cut it out?

Drew:  Yes.

Me:  Tell him to put down the scissors.  NOW!

But it was too late.  There was a shriek.  A wale.  And then I overheard something about the car eating her hair.

When Sean finally explained that he was left with no other choice–that the car was REALLY stuck—he finished with “Meh…it’s not really that bad.  You can’t even tell!  You know, unless you look closely.”

Great.

I hung up the phone, exasperated.  Saturday morning I’d gotten her hair into a pony tail for the very first time.  We celebrated.  I was ecstatic thinking of how easy it would be to pull it back from now on.  No more braiding.  No more wrestling it into a presentable “bob” so she didn’t look like Medusa at school.  A pony tail would be so easy.Who knew a remote control car and a scissor-happy father–who was bleeding from the head–would thwart my dreams of carefree little-girl-hair… within eight hours of the first pony tail?

I hadn’t even had a chance to send Jo Ann an SOS.

What is it they say about best laid plans?

*****

On Sunday afternoon Sean finally decided the bloody-towel-on-the-head look was getting old.  Four staples in the head later I’m happy to report he’s fine.

MK’s hair has since been trimmed.  It still, kind of, goes in a pony tail…with the help of a lot of hair spray and a headband.

And, Ryan’s next and last college visit to Michigan State University has been rescheduled from a Saturday to a week day.  A babysitter has been hired… and there won’t be a remote control car in sight.

Then, just maybe then, I can leave the house for a day without a bizarre phone call.

Now, let’s all hold hands and knock on wood together.

Just Another Reason This Pregnancy Has Been Good For Me

AUTHOR: | POSTED: 07/7/14 10:50 AM
CATEGORIES: Blog, pregnancy, Travel, Travel Trouble

19 1/2 weeks and I’m half way.

I know for most women twenty weeks marks the half way point of pregnancy but given my history of early deliveries combined with the fact that my doctor says I can’t go any longer than 39 weeks, I think it’s safe to say I’ve hit the the gestational summit.  It’s all downhill from here.  Right?

Cue snickering.

Actually I’m well aware that the most potentially challenging parts of this pregnancy–namely the third trimester–are ahead of me.  I tend to run into issues with labile hypertension (fancy term for blood pressure that dances up and down like a stipper on a pole)  at around 28 weeks.  So, I figure I have nine weeks to blissfully skip through the field of this pregnancy that finally is allowing me to feel human again.

Dare I write it…my morning sickness is gone.

Hallelujah.

Honestly, it’s hard for me to express how grateful I am to be through the first trimester of hell.  April and May of 2014 will go down as two of the darkest most sickly months of my life.  The shock of this pregnancy still often catches up to me and during those moments of surrealness I wonder why this has happened.  Then a wave of nausea would wash over me and I’d think maybe this whole thing is serving as a reminder.  A reminder as to why the entire episode of “pregnant with someone else’s baby” was so unacceptable.

It’s been five years since my pregnancy with Logan and as time has passed my memory of the challenges of that pregnancy were softening—or more accurately—becoming distorted.  Of course I’ve always known women quickly forget the pain of labor or the challenges of pregnancy when enveloped by the love for their child.  Even though I don’t have a normal post pregnancy relationship with Logan, I had eventually worked my way to a place of profound meaning.  I was able to assign a greater purpose to the experience.  The act of getting to a peace-filled place was challenging and don’t misunderstand–I’m glad I finally arrived–but as I moved further away from my grief my attitude towards the mistake that catapulted me into that pregnancy was morphing.  I was disconnecting from the anger.

I’m not sure that is a good thing.

Here’s why.

Yesterday Drew got sick.  Really sick.  We’d just arrived home from a week in Vail, Colorado.  It was our family vacation which, for me, meant a week of relaxation and beautiful views.  For Drew it was a week of altitude training.  He’s a runner and pushing his body at 10,000 feet is good for endurance.  Less oxygen meant his lungs must adjust and if a runner can get their lungs to perform at altitude…well…just think of the possibilities when oxygen is at 100%.  (Yes.  The minds of runners are twisted.)

Anyways, our trip home was hampered by a lengthy flight delay.   None of us got to bed until 4:30 am Sunday morning.  For normal people that translates into a delayed beginning of the day.  Not for Drew, however.  He had scheduled a run with some teammates and wasn’t about to let a few little things like a massive altitude change, poor nutrition from eating airport food, and 4.5 hours of sleep disrupt his training schedule.  So off he went on a thirteen mile run.

A half-friggin-marathon.

Which landed him  in the ER at 4:30 yesterday afternoon with vomiting and significant chest pain.  I knew–because this isn’t his first time at the clinical dehydration rodeo–his ailments were most likely caused by an electrolyte imbalance but the chest pain was messing  up my very expert, “I slept at a Holiday Inn last night” diagnosis.

I was worried.

So, when they ruled out a heart attack and stuck us in room 24 with the promise of an IV bag and pain meds and then promptly disappeard for an hour I reconnected with my anger regarding medical mistakes.  You see, I’ve seen enough episodes of ER to know the acronym for PE (pulmonary embolism) and I’d heard the docs talking about an X-ray to rule that diagnosis out.  Yet, there we sat.  My son writhing in pain, clearly dehydrated and not a medical practioner in sight.

I knew they were busy which is why I engaged in a mental battle between wanting to advocate for my child and not wanting to be the pain-in-the-ass, over-dramatic mother in room 24.  I was taught to respect medical personnel.  They go through an immense amount of training and they entered into their profession to help–not hurt–people.  Plus, there were probably other patients in more need than us.

But…what if they forgot about us?  What if our paperwork got mixed up with someone else’s?  It’s happened before…ahem.

And with that…I marched to the nurse’s station and respectfully questioned our wait.  Was she annoyed?  Yes.  Had there been a mix up of some sort?  Sadly, yes.  Someone thought someone else was getting the IV started and meds administered and another patient had been taken–out of order–for a chest X-ray.

Color me shocked.

Thank goodness my mother’s intuition was spot on.   It was clinical dehydration with gastric discomfort.  A few bags of fluids and a dose of narcotics later we were on our way home.  As I write this Drew is upstairs sleeping it off.

Although all turned out fine, I can’t help but be reminded why it’s so important to advocate for yourself and loved ones when seeking medical treatment.  It’s so easy not to want to be the “pain in the butt” patient.  What would the nurses think?  But what if I HAD questioned my doctor during my ill-fated embryo transfer back in 2009?  There had been a flub with the information on my medical bracelet.  I had reason to be rattled.  But, out of respect, I deferred to the expertise of the medical professionals involved.  I dangerously assumed they were infallible.

That was my mistake.

They are human.  Capable of being frazzled and overwhelmed by the details of their job–just like the rest of us.

*****

This past spring, every time I vomited due to morning sickness I thought about my pregnancy with Logan.  I can’t tell you how many times I had my head buried in a toilet and found myself thinking about how hard pregnancy is—and how inexcusable the mistakes that led to my pregnancy with Logan were.

My anger is still there.  It’s not the kind of anger that weighs me down, however.  I’d like to think it’s productive–keeping me on my toes when in a medical setting.

Just another reason this pregnancy has been good for me.

*****

We had a wonderful week in Vail, Colorado.  Here are a few pics of the adventures we took…

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Reagan kept chanting, "Climb higher.  Higher."

Reagan kept chanting, “Climb higher. Higher.”

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Vail has an amazing Fourth of July parade.

Vail has an amazing Fourth of July parade.

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If you are looking for the recipe for bumbleperry pie click here.

And Then He Chased The Snake with A Shovel…Have We Learned Nothing?

AUTHOR: | POSTED: 06/25/14 9:46 AM
CATEGORIES: Blog, From The Files of You Can't Make This Sh*t Up

Snakes like my patio.

I have no idea why snakes like my patio.  Maybe it’s because we stained the concrete a dark gray and as a result it heats up quite quickly.  Maybe they like to coil themselves around our black flower pots so they can hug my petunias whiles sunbathing.  Or–and I honestly think this is the more likely scenario–maybe they know I sliced one of their relatives in half with my sliding glass door and periodically scaring the hell out of me is part of their master grand snake plan of revenge.

Yup.  I think that’s it.  It’s about revenge.

And, it’s all so unnecessary.  There is not need for revenge because no one regrets the whole half-a-snake in my house incident more than me.  I mean, even though I was able to scrub, bleach and disinfect the snake blood from the frame of my door, it turns out there isn’t enough mental bleach in the world to erase the horror of cutting a snake in half.  But, damn.  Shouldn’t they understand?  I had no choice.  It was either slam the snake in the door–or–go to jail for arson.

Regardless, I will go the rest of my life trying not to kill another snake.  I’ve learned my lesson.

And, one would assume after witnessing the aftermath of this traumatic event, one’s spouse would have learned the same lesson.  Even though Sean wasn’t there for the whole incident, he’s seen the post-traumatic scars lingering in my psyche.  He knows I don’t open any exterior doors in my house without visually confirming the absence of snakes.  He knows why I turn on the lights when I pee at night–which is happening a lot these days.  I’m not looking for toilet paper or making sure I don’t trip on the bathroom rug.  I’m making sure there are no snakes hiding in the toilet bowl.  You know that really happens–a lot–in Guam?  If it could happen in Guam, surely it’s possible in Ohio.Clearly the half-a-snake incident wrecked me.

But does Sean get it?  I’m sad to report he doesn’t.  He learned NOTHING as evidenced by a scene that played out recently on our patio.  It was late afternoon and Sean wanted to take the little girls for a swim.  After wrestling all three of them into their suits and making sure the first step of my patio was snake free we started to usher them to the pool.  All should have been fine, except turns out the snakes are getting trickier.  Instead of waiting on the step outside our door to scare the hell out of me, this guy–who was python-like…I kid you not I swear our yard is home to the Kareem Abdul Jabar family of garden snakes–was waiting for us on the first step off our patio.

Mistakenly thinking I cleared the risk of a snake encounter, my guard was down.  Thank God the little girls were in front of me.  (Yup.  I just admitted that) They saw it first.  They were the ones that almost stepped on it.  And, then…they screamed.  And, I screamed.  Isabella even cried.  For the record,  I didn’t cry.  I ran.  As fast as I could, I ran back into my house– leaving my young to be eaten by a python.

I’m not proud.  Just honest.

Anyways, before I knew what was happening Sean was on it.  Like a Ninja on a mission he grabbed a snow shovel that had been laying on our patio since–well–forever and lunged at the python.  I’m sure in his mind it was all he could do to save his daughters.  After all, their mother had just left them to fend for themselves—but a shovel?  Why a shovel?   Then I realized.  He was trying to cut the snake in half.

“Noooo!!!”

I screamed for him to stop but his knight in shining armor instincts were out of control.  He slammed that shovel down on the concrete multiple times while the girls just stood there screaming in horror.  After a few seconds he stopped, turned to me, grinned and said, “I think I got it.”

He was so proud.  In his mind, he’d saved his daughters, but I knew the truth.

We are doomed.

*****

I’m over at TodayParents announcing our happy news today.  Give the article a read…click here.

“How The Heck Did This Even Happen?” And Other Questions About This Baby

AUTHOR: | POSTED: 06/16/14 10:24 AM
CATEGORIES: Blog, pregnancy, Pregnant at 45

I’ve spent much of the last 13 weeks pondering my current state of pregnant at 45.  At first I was shocked and honestly, I think my constant state of “holy crap” has only just recently started to wear off.  Telling people helped a little.  Finding out our baby  is healthy helped even more.  Slam dunking my first trimester free of complications was the icing on the cake.  As a result, Sean and I have moved from the surrealness  of the pregnancy to planning mode.  We’ve got some arrangements to make.

Seeing as how all of you only recently found out about our surprise, we’ve gotten a lot of questions about how this baby boy came to be.  They aren’t the usual questions but given our history of infertility, miscarriage and that whole episode of “pregnant w/somebody’s else’s child” I understand.  At first I was answering individual messages and emails but in the interest of efficiency I think it’s fair to simply lay out the details for one and all.  After all, this whole episode has come as a shock to everyone who knows us.

So…here you go!

Was This Pregnancy Planned?

Simply, no.  The idea that at the age of 45 my reproductive system suddenly corrected itself is baffling to us.  To be quite frank, in the course of our 21 year marriage Sean and I have never used any kind of birth control.  In addition, we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility.   Meaning, of the six fertility specialists we worked with, not one of them could figure out why we couldn’t get pregnant.  I have great eggs, my fallopian tubes are open and I always responded beautifully to fertility meds.  And, of course, Sean’s swimmers are stellar.  We were an infertility puzzle and this spontaneous pregnancy at my advanced maternal age had further perplexed  us and our physicians.

So, just to clarify I am carrying this baby and there were no fertility treatments involved.  This was an old fashioned conception…much to the horror of my teenage sons.

But You Said You Couldn’t Carry Any More Pregnancies After Logan.  What gives?

True.  After my pregnancy with Logan in 2009 we were advised not to seek any further ART (assisted reproductive technology) treatments.  In layman’s terms,  I was advised not to get pregnant again using IVF.  Because using IVF was the only way we’d been able to conceive (since 1996) that meant no more pregnancies for me.   There were multiple reasons for this advice the most significant of which had to do with my history of HELLP Syndrome (a rare and dangerous form of preeclampsia).  The risks of HELLP returning increase as a women ages.  I was forty when I delivered Logan and we knew we needed to give my uterus some time to heal after my c-section in 2009 so by the time we would get around to transfering our remaining embryos I would have been upwards of 42.  Therefore,we decided to work with Jennifer, our gestational carrier, and thank God we did.  I am absolutely certain a twin pregnancy would not have ended well if I had been the one pregnant.

Is This Pregnancy Dangerous for You?

It’s not going to be a walk in the park…that’s for sure.  My perinatologist is hopeful, however.  I think we are all hanging our hats on the fact that this was a spontaneous pregnancy and the only other time I’ve conceived this way my pregnancy was text book.  I think another aspect giving us hope is the fact that my HELLP didn’t reoccur with Logan.  To be specific, I had HELLP with Ryan and it was full blown scary.  I had it again with MK but it wasn’t as bad.  So, the fact that I didn’t have it with Logan is reason for cautious optimism.  Needless to say, I have a great team of physicans looking after me.  This pregnancy and my health will be monitored very closely.

How Did You Find Out?

I was a little slow on the uptake for this one.  I hadn’t been feeling well for a few days and was sitting at my computer one afternoon when I realized I was late.  I quickly googled “menopause” wondering if I’d suddenly started it.  Just so you know, there’s no such thing as “sudden onset of menopause”.  After about five minutes of searching I impulsively ran up the stairs remembering I’d seen an old EPT stick floating around the bottom of a drawer.  I found it, did my business and waited.  A line popped up immediately.  One line.   In that moment I mentally scolded myself for even thinking I could be pregnant.  I’m infertile.  It’s always…ALWAYS… only one line.  But then I realized I was holding the stick upside down and the line that had popped up so quickly was actually in the “results” window.  Just then the second line in the “control” window was peeking through.

I was dumbfounded.

After a string of profanity that would’ve made a sailor blush, I confirmed the pregnancy with a few more “sticks”.

How Did You Tell Sean?

Did I mention it was April Fool’s Day?  I figured almost anyone I told would think I was joking.  In fact, it actually occurred to me that maybe EPT was trying to punk me.  Of course, that would have required one hell of a conspiracy.

Anyways, I waited until after dinner to show Sean the sticks.  He was speechless.  When he finally regained his composure he muttered something about thinking maybe we should’ve been “using something”.  Of course, neither of us ever gave contraception any serious consideration.  After a 20 year drought we both incorrectly assumed there was not a snow ball’s chance I could simply conceive.  Live and learn.

How’s It Going So Far?

So far so good.  This is the first pregnancy since Drew’s that I haven’t had an episode of bleeding during the first trimester.  I’ve been pretty sick but I think (knocking on wood) it’s subsiding.  In addition, the baby is measuring right on and our chromosomal testing came back negative.  This baby boy is chromosomally typical.  Praise the Lord.

What’s Your Due Date?

I’m officially due November 28th, however it will be a c-section so I’ll deliver one week earlier on the 21st…God willing.  Honestly, given my history of premature deliveries I’d be thrilled to make it into November and avoid any NICU time.  Praying…praying…praying.

*****

So…there you have it.  The down and dirty about how we’ve gotten to this point.  It’s definitely another crazy chapter in the saga of our lives, but if I was to order up an unexpected medical diagnosis at my age…well… I can’t think of a better one!

We are really, really lucky!

 

 

 

 

And Then She Said, “Enjoy The Rest of Your Pregnancy!”

AUTHOR: | POSTED: 06/10/14 4:32 PM
CATEGORIES: 1015 The River, Blog, Cell Free DNA test, Chromosomal Testing, Glass City Parent, Health & Safety, pregnancy

Huh?

I mean it seemed like a dream at the time.  I’d just been given darn near the best news of my life…your baby is chromosomally typical…and before the genetic counselor hung up she said, “Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!

No one has ever said that to me before.

I guess that’s because I’ve never done any prenatal chromosomal testing before.  Given my advanced maternal age, however it seemed prudent to get as much information as we could.  If you read Inconceivable, you know I had an amnio done when I was 16 weeks pregnant with Logan.  The purpose of the amnio was to get an exact DNA match to the his parents.  We wanted to make sure we were handing over the child I was carrying to the correct people.  Anways, you may recall it was not a pleasant experience.  Therefore, I had no desire to lather, rinse and repeat.  That’s why I was thrilled to learn there is a new test that can diagnose chromosomal abnormalities in a fetus and all it involves is a blood draw.

Enter the Cell Free DNA test.  In simple terms, scientists have learned how to isolate placental DNA in a blood sample from the mother.  By studying the placental DNA they can diagnose trisomy 13, 18 and 21 and determine gender.  The test consisted of a simple blood draw and a ten day wait.

The wait was the most painful part of the process.

When the clock struck 5 pm this past Friday and I didn’t have the test results I was beside myself.  It was the tenth day and in my head the results were supposed to have been in no later than that very moment.  Imagine my relief when at 5:10 pm my phone showed an incoming call from Toledo Hospital.  I could hardly breathe.  When I heard the words, “totally normal” I  burst into tears.  Looking back on it, I don’t know what I was so worried about.  After all, Sean and I are perfectly capable of parenting a child with a chromosomal abnormality.  In fact, we would have welcomed him or her with open, loving arms.  I think it must have been the mortality rates that come along with trisomy 13 and 18.  I just couldn’t bear the thought of eventually losing this child.  We’ve had enough loss.

Once I gathered myself the genetic counselor reminded me I’d told her I didn’t want to know the gender.  I assured her that was still the case but impressed how important it was for my midwife to get the gender results ASAP.  “You see,  I signed a release so my midwife can call my baker.  We’re going to do a reveal this weekend… with a cake.  You know, blue frosting on the inside if it’s a boy; pink if it’s a girl.  I want to find out with the rest of my family.”  I thought I sounded stupid.  Honestly, in that moment I didn’t care about the gender.  This baby was healthy.  That’s all that mattered.  (More about our gender reveal here.)

She was happy to oblige and ended our conversation with a cheery, “Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy” –which stopped me cold in my tracks.  Enjoying pregnancy is an oxymoron to me.  My pregnancies are fraught with complications and worries.  Is it even possible to enjoy my pregnancy?

I’ve thought a lot about that since Friday and decided I’m going to give it my best good college try.  I’ve put away my doppler monitor promising only to search for his heartbeat once a week;  I’ve committed to starting to look at little boy paint colors and decor for a nursery instead of being afraid of “jinxing it” by planning;  and I’m going to talk about him without worrying that I’m getting too attached.

I’m going to count this chicken before he’s hatched.

That’s a new thing for me…and I think I kind of like it.

*****

So there is no misinterpretation  as to why we did the Cell Free DNA Test I feel the need to clarify.   We really felt it was best to know if there were going to be any health complications before this child’s birth.  We truly value the benefits of mental and emotional preparation when it comes to challenging medical and emotional challenges.   Knowing would have allowed us to make the best plans for our son  and ourselves prior to his delivery.  If the results had come back positive for a chromosomal abnormality we would have stuck to our personal belief system, carried this child to term and welcomed him into this world as God made him.  That is consistant with our personal belief system.

Key word – personal.