A Visit and That Pit

AUTHOR: | POSTED: October 21, 2013 | COMMENTS: 4 Comments
CATEGORIES: college, perspective, Resilience, saying goodbye,

Carolyn Savage

Drew came home this past weekend.  It was his first visit since leaving two months ago and to say I was excited is an understatement.  Of course, I’ve been hoping and praying for over a year now that Drew experiences an easy transition to college.  Home sickness  was not something I wanted him to experience but it would be dishonest for me to say that I wasn’t a little bit happy to hear he wanted to come home for the weekend.  He loves college, but he still loves it here, too.

Perfect.

On Friday afternoon the girls and I set off to pick him up.  He’d wrangled a ride to a small town about thirty miles from Toledo and as we made our way through the newly harvested farm fields I smiled.  The anticipation of having all of my children under one roof made me happy.  As we pulled into the parking lot of our meeting spot and Drew emerged from the car Isabella yelled, “There he is!”  and the girls clapped and clapped.

Apparently I wasn’t the only one happy to see him.

We spent the weekend bouncing from football games to cross country races.  We ate Drew’s favorite home cooked meals and ordered out from his favorite local pizzaria.  I worked my way through the mountain of laundry he brought with him and baked banana bread to tuck into his bag when he left.  We took a few minutes to pose for a family picture in the back yard marking the occasion of being together.  As always, Saturday bled into Sunday and in the blink of an eye it was time for Drew to head back.  It was just the two of us as we made our way east to meet his ride back to Athens.  We talked about upcoming exams and Thanksgiving vacation and made a last minute grocery run to shore up his stockpile of dorm food.  We squeezed as much as we could out of 48 hours… but then it was time.

Saying goodbye is always bittersweet.

I’m so happy he loves college and has had a fairly uneventful transition.  I’m still excited to see how his future unfolds but as I pulled away I felt that pit in my stomach again.   How did we get to this place so quickly?   Didn’t he just start kindergarten?I’m beginning to realize that the pit may always be with me but as I get used to this next phase of parenting I will learn to grow accustomed to it’s presence.  I think that’s called acceptance…with a side of optimism.

Because, of course, one can’t spend too much time thinking about how life used to be.  It would dim the bright light of the future.

Now onward.

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A little glimpse of our weekend…

St. Johns Jesuit won the district title for cross country this past Saturday in a bit of an upset.  On to regionals next Saturday.  Ryan is working hard...along with his teammates.

St. Johns Jesuit won the cross country district title this past Saturday in a bit of an upset. On to regionals next Saturday. Ryan (#379) is working hard…along with his teammates.

Prayer Request...This is Ryan's teammate, Tevin.  Tevin's mom is battling a serious illness right now.  Please keep her in your prayers.  She needs all she can get!  (Printed with permission.)

Prayer Request…This is Ryan’s teammate, Tevin. Tevin’s mom is battling a serious illness right now. Please keep her  and her family in your prayers. She needs all she can get! (Printed with permission.)

My monkeys...

My monkeys…

 

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Little ham's!

Little ham’s!

With a tripod!  The twins thought me running for the shot was hysterical.  Who knew that would get them to look and smile?

Shot with a tripod! The twins thought me running for the shot was hysterical. Who knew that would get them to look and smile simultaneously?

4 Comments on “ A Visit and That Pit ”

  • Jen | October 21st, 2013 3:06 pm

    Heavens to Betsy! I know just what you mean…our son came home from college for the first time this weekend as well and it was harder for us to send him off again yesterday than it was when we delivered him to the dorm two months ago.
    I must also say, that your article about how to speak to your college student in Today Moms has helped enormously! Thank you!

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  • Jessica | October 21st, 2013 7:12 pm

    Oh my heart. My son just started kindergarten and I can hardly stand sending him there each day, I can’t imagine college. I’m still pretending he’s going to live next door for life.
    Your family is gorgeous!

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  • Teri | October 22nd, 2013 7:41 am

    I’ve got one more year before I have to start worrying about this, Carolyn, but I’m taking cues from you, so please keep the updates coming. I love your insights and hope that I am as strong when my oldest goes away to college. Stay strong, my friend!!!

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  • Lynda crossman | October 22nd, 2013 2:44 pm

    Carolyn, your writing is so true. Where did the time go? My oldest graduated jr. College this past yr and went on to the university. My youngest is in 2nd grade. The years have fluttered by. The wrenching of the adults that they are…they have wings….;). Let them fly. 😉

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