A Letter Regarding My Mortality: Dear Kids…

AUTHOR: | POSTED: August 16, 2012 | COMMENTS: 3 Comments
CATEGORIES: Daddy on The Fly,

Sean Savage

“Children may not listen to what you say, but they will read what you write and watch what you do.”

Dear Kids,

I have a very difficult time expressing my feelings in conversation and in many respects I guess this is the definition of a man. That’s why I make a point to tell you I love you each day and those awkwardly unpleasant (for you) attempts to hug you. Often I find it easier to express my feelings through writing.   Perhaps it’s because I can’t see the eye rolling or won’t know the TV volume’s been turned up when I write. Or maybe it’s because sometimes it’s easier for teenagers to read thoughts from their parents.  Listening, for kids, can be such a dreaded chore.

So I’m writing you a letter. 

In fact, I’m going to write a series of letters inspired by a medical diagnosis that has altered my perspective.  I know, I know—news flash—I’m not going to live forever.  This may come as a surprise to you but nobody was more shocked to learn of my mortality than myself.  I used to think I’d live forever.  It’s funny how a little medical diagnosis can force one to grapple with his time. 

As you know after some tests on my heart, at the Cleveland Clinic, it turns out there is a glitch with my aorta.  The doctors are calling it an aortic aneurysm, a condition that has to be monitored quite closely.  It’s a complicated diagnosis because the condition has the potential to cause sudden death, but the remedy is risky so the recommendation right now is to wait and monitor it over time.  If the aneurysm grows to a predetermined size, I’ll undergo an aortic replacement, which I here isn’t a run in the park.  So right now, I’m relying on the expertise of the finest cardiologists in the world and, of course, as with everything, my fate is ultimately in the hands of God. 

Hopefully my number doesn’t come up and these letters will help our relationship by providing you some insights on topics you prefer not to discuss in person.  In the event my number does come up—and after you make sure I look good in the casket and monitor mom to make sure she is appropriately saddened by my departure—reference these letters for advice and to learn more about my dreams for you—they are countless.  

Love,  Dad

3 Comments on “ A Letter Regarding My Mortality: Dear Kids… ”

  • Tammy Holder | August 16th, 2012 3:22 pm

    Sean,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! Your love for your family and the community is evident in all you do. I am saddened by hearing of your medical condition, and grateful to know it’s been found. I believe that its the next step in making sure you are healthy for the next stage of your journey!

    You are integrity, fortitude and unconditional love personified!

    Kindest regards,

    Tammy

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  • Debbie Schaaf | August 17th, 2012 7:31 am

    Sean………..I lost my father at a very young age to a heart condition. “Back in those days”, things just were not detected until it was too late. My prayer for you and your family is that they watch it, catch it, fix it and you live to be a very old man. I am so sorry you have this hanging over you when things are finally in place for your family. Take extra good care of yourself, and hug those boys. Even if they dont like it.

    God has seen you through some crazy stuff……………He is there now. Take extra good care. Blessings to you all. debbie

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  • Amy Castle | August 17th, 2012 7:59 am

    Sean,
    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. You are such an inspiration to kids in your community and beyond. A kind & generous man, you were a stepping stone and a great encouragement to our son, Noah, when he decided he wanted to play basketball 24/7. You were his first Coach (outside of Dad) & a glimpse in to what it would be like to play basketball outside of his comfort zone. You gave up precious amounts of time for these boys to play ball whether it be on your home court or in a gym, and for that I say “thank you”. What a great role model your children have! May you continue to lead a long & happy life with your family.
    Keep the Faith~Amy

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