AUTHOR: Carolyn Savage | POSTED: March 20, 2013 | COMMENTS: 1 Comment
To the victim,
I want you to know that you are loved.
That your existence in our world is valued by not only your friends and family, but by countless strangers who have heard your story and prayed for justice. You are not a “thing” as those who have mistreated you would have you believe. You did nothing to deserve to be raped. No one ever “deserves” to be raped. Please, don’t let anyone’s misguided words lead you to believe that the rape was somehow your fault.
I want you to know that our family has talked a great deal about the crimes committed against you. I’ll admit, talking to my two teenage boys about rape is uncomfortable and unpleasant– sometimes parenting is uncomfortable and unpleasant–but it is important to their father and I that our sons understand what rape is and why it’s criminal behavior. I can assure you that my sons, and countless others whose parents and educators have appropriately broached the topic, have nothing but compassion and empathy for you.
I can only imagine how dark some of your days are right now. Sixteen is hard enough, so considering what you’ve been through, I’m guessing you are wondering if this will ever get better. I have hope that it will. You have a promising life in front of you.
So, as you move forward, day by day, and minute by minute, know this…There’s an army of good people pulling for you and praying for you.
Please, if you feel so compelled, add a well wish and share. It’s my hope that somehow this message will help… just a little.
Most importantly, as disturbing as this child’s story is, it’s important that we, as parents, talk to our children about rape.
There’s a teachable moment in this.