Steubenville: A Letter of Compassion

AUTHOR: | POSTED: March 20, 2013 | COMMENTS: 1 Comment

Carolyn Savage
Given the disturbing news continuing to come out of Steubenville, Ohio, I feel compelled to say something….something important… to one young girl who I think might be struggling right now.

To the victim,

I want you to know that you are loved.

That your existence in our world is valued by not only your friends and family, but by countless strangers who have heard your story and prayed for justice. You are not a “thing” as those who have mistreated you would have you believe. You did nothing to deserve to be raped. No one ever “deserves” to be raped. Please, don’t let anyone’s misguided words lead you to believe that the rape was somehow your fault.

I want you to know that our family has talked a great deal about the crimes committed against you. I’ll admit, talking to my two teenage boys about rape is uncomfortable and unpleasant– sometimes parenting is uncomfortable and unpleasant–but it is important to their father and I that our sons understand what rape is and why it’s criminal behavior. I can assure you that my sons, and countless others whose parents and educators have appropriately broached the topic, have nothing but compassion and empathy for you.

I can only imagine how dark some of your days are right now. Sixteen is hard enough, so considering what you’ve been through, I’m guessing you are wondering if this will ever get better. I have hope that it will. You have a promising life in front of you.

So, as you move forward, day by day, and minute by minute, know this…There’s an army of good people pulling for you and praying for you.

God speed!


Please, if you feel so compelled, add a well wish and share. It’s my hope that somehow this message will help… just a little. 

Most importantly, as disturbing as this child’s story is, it’s important that we, as parents, talk to our children about rape. 

There’s a teachable moment in this.

One Comment on “ Steubenville: A Letter of Compassion ”

  • Brenda | March 26th, 2013 3:20 pm

    I totally agree with everything that Carolyn said in regards to what happened to this young girl. My heart goes out to you dear, because you most definitely did NOT deserve to have this happen to you. You have feelings and a heart. Don’t let anyone bad mouth you because you are a good young lady. Every parent needs to talk to their sons in regards to rape. They all need to know the hurt and devastation that this does to the person who is raped and degraded beyond words. To this young lady, know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Try your best to keep your chin up and always, always remember …. YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT HERE….you are the VICTIM OF A HEARTLESS CRIME. Know that you are loved by many sweetheart, including ME…Take care of yourself…

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