Thankful….Two Miracles

AUTHOR: | POSTED: November 4, 2013 | COMMENTS: 1 Comment
CATEGORIES: gratitude, Holidays, Infertility, IVF, Love & Marriage, thankful, thanksgiving, twins,

Carolyn Savage

So November brings all kinds of happiness into my heart.  I love holiday preparations in November because November holds promise and anticipation of family fun. This past week held a few grateful moments for me–which is fitting.  We’re supposed to be thankful in November. Thankfulness is the theme.  So stay tuned for some special stories this month. The first of which is wrapped in a pink bundle (or two) of joy.

Celebrating a Miracle

Every once in awhile I get an email through this site asking for some insights as to our struggle with fertility.  The messages are always from women who are in the midst of their journey and are experiencing failure after failure.  About a year ago I received a message from a local woman telling me about her and her husband’s frustration with their path to parenthood.  We eventually spoke on the phone and after hearing her story I strongly advised her to seek treatment with a new doctor.  Of course, I’m not a fertility expert but after ten years of failures in between Ryan and Mary Kate; a mistake that required me to educate myself about every nook and cranny of the world of assisted reproduction; and a bumpy road to our twins I’ve realized that sometimes the most helpful advice one can get is from another who’s been there and done that.

The good news is that my new friend heeded my advice and low and behold after a single cycle of IVF with her new clinic she hit the jackpot.  TWINS!

I’ve kept tabs on her throughout her pregnancy and seeing as how she is only five weeks away from her scheduled delivery we figured it was time to celebrate in person.  Last Wednesday we met for lunch and it was so special.  We talked about her girls.  She shared pictures of their nursery.  And, we talked about gratitude.

Sometimes I wonder about the impact of our story on others.  As our struggle begins to fade into the past I question myself about the need to continue to share.  Is my time on this blog worth the time diverted from my family obligations?  Is anyone getting anything out of this space?  Of course, I know that the reason I write here is more about my needs than anything else so the question of selfishness is never too far from my thoughts.

This meeting didn’t change any of those questions  but…it did give me some satisfaction. There are two little ladies arriving in December that hold a whole lot of meaning for me.  Of course, I’m just a pin prick in how they came to be, but there’s satisfaction in that.  Sean and I have said over and over again that if what we went through positively impacts only one person in this world–than it was all worth it.

And it was.

I’m grateful for that.

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From our weekend…

So...the weather was horrible on Halloween so the entire city and all of our suburbs postponed trick-or-treating until November 3rd.

So…the weather was horrible on Halloween so the entire city and all of our suburbs postponed trick-or-treating until November 3rd.

In the spirit of "making due" we headed out to the mall to do some inside trick-or-treating...along with the rest of Toledo. Halloween

In the spirit of “making due” we headed out to the mall to do some inside trick-or-treating…along with the rest of Toledo. Halloween

The crowded event was salvaged when we ran into one of MK's classmates.  It was a Halloween miracle that she was there!

The crowded event was salvaged when we ran into one of MK’s classmates. It was a Halloween miracle that she was there!

Tired mall trick-or-treaters!

Tired mall trick-or-treaters!

Sunday brought us to the "real deal".

Sunday brought us to the “real deal”.

Trying to get a picture with the jack-o-lanterns.

Trying to get a picture with the jack-o-lanterns.

Isabella was none to happy.  Ryan was right there with her.

Isabella was none to happy. Ryan was right there with her.

Amazing how a binky and a favorite aunt can cheer a girl up.

Amazing how a binky and a favorite aunt can cheer a girl up.

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Ariel needed a hat in the frigid temperatures!

Ariel needed a hat in the frigid temperatures!

But the loot...

But the loot…

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All worth it!

All worth it!

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Happy Monday!

One Comment on “ Thankful….Two Miracles ”

  • Jen | November 6th, 2013 8:17 am

    I have just recently discovered you and your blog….I read your book. Please know that you words you offer are significant and heard. Truly.

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