The Importance of Chasing Resilience

AUTHOR: | POSTED: April 16, 2013 | COMMENTS: 6 Comments
CATEGORIES: 1015 The River, Compassion, Resilience,

Carolyn Savage

Every Wednesday morning I appear with my friends Mary Beth and Rick on 101.5 The River to chat.  This week’s topic adhered to our unfortunate current events and how it relates to parenting.  Tune in Wednesday at 7:20 am to listen in.  If you aren’t local, no worries.  Catch my appearance on I Heart Radio!  

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“Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever.”  Psychology Today

Right now we are all bouncing back.

The ability to bounce back is something that never ceases to amaze me.  That resilient side of our souls that shines brighter on the rebound is a quality that I’ve tried to nurture in my children.  It’s important that our children are resilient.  Resilience is what drives us to move forward after adversity.

I don’t know about you, but I had a ‘moment’ when I arrived home Monday afternoon and flipped on what I thought would be our 5:00 local news. That moment is becoming familiar to me.  In fact, more familiar than I care to admit.  It was a moment of confusion…Why am I hearing Scott Pelley’s voice instead of my local girl, Chrys Petersen?  What is this?  

Then reality quickly crept in as I the pieces started to fall into place.

Boston.  Boston Marathon.  Finish line.  Bomb.  Two bombs.  Oh no.

Attack. Spectators.  Victims.  Innocents.  Terrorism.  Not again.

Who?  Why?

Damn.

I’d say the entire ‘moment’ lasted less than a minute.  Less than a minute it took for me to string together what had happened and fall into tears.

The rest of the evening unfolded as expected.  Discussions with our boys about the first terrorist attack since 9/11.  Prayers were said for all of the victims and gratitude was expressed for those that ran to help.  It’s a drill that we are becoming familiar with.

This makes me sad.

Even sadder?  Watching my teenage boys come to grips with what terrorism truly is in our world.  They are too young to remember September 11th.  The Oklahoma City bombing happened when Drew was only seven months old.  This was their first brush with an act of terrorism and as I watched them put the puzzle pieces together a small chunk of my heart broke.  They’re damn near adults now and with that comes some cold, harsh realities.  My ability to protect them is pretty much gone.  That’s a helpless feeling.

Cue resilience.

Resilience is what keeps all of us ticking.  It’s the “keep on” in “keepin’ on”.  Without it we’d all be hiding under our covers afraid to leave the safety of our homes. Some of us seem to find it more quickly than others.  Some never seem to find it at all, and that’s what I don’t want for my children.  I want them to know what resilience is.  To be able to identify it by how it feels so they’ll recognize it when it’s needed, and chase it …tirelessly…when it’s elusive.

I admit that I’m tired of needing resilience.  Didn’t Sandy Hook , Aurora and Tucson just happen?   Regardless of how tired I am of chasing resilience I know I must.  We all need to move forward.  For ourselves, our families, the victims, and our country. We must be resilient.

After all, without it they win.

Right?

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For some helpful tips on how to talk with children about the Boston terrorist attack please visit here.

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For the victims we are praying…please know this.

6 Comments on “ The Importance of Chasing Resilience ”

  • Kelly | April 17th, 2013 9:02 am

    First of all…I love your blog! Your honesty is refreshing! It is sad that we have to explain these things to our children!!

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  • Carolyn Savage | April 17th, 2013 10:11 am

    Thanks. I love to hear that my honesty is refreshing because sometimes I feel like my honesty is just plain disappointing!

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  • Stef | April 17th, 2013 1:43 pm

    Powerfully worded. Thank you for sharing those thoughts.

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  • Monday Prayers…and Smiles | Mama On The Fly | April 22nd, 2013 10:41 am

    […] of them.  I will be praying that they find the strength to persevere through their darker moments, chase resilience, and some day find a way to once again experience joy in their […]

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  • David Adam (manually imported from Facebook) | April 22nd, 2013 1:31 pm

    There was a great piece on TED about grit and the fact that those who have grit excel.

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  • Angela Bonner (manually imported from Facebook) | April 22nd, 2013 1:31 pm

    Very well said!

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