AUTHOR: Carolyn Savage | POSTED: May 25, 2011 | COMMENTS: 10 Comments
Apparently, I am nesting. Between the yard work, the preparations in the nursery, and the crazy undertaking of a graduation party for Ryan’s eighth grade class, my “to-do” list is growing with every project. (Why is it that whenever you start one project…it leads to another more expensive or more time consuming task?) I had a lot of items that needed to be checked off my list last week, but probably the best one was taking the day and driving to see Jennifer and meet her ob/gyn last Wednesday. It was a three and a half hour trek (one way) so I had a lot of time to think about what to do next, as I counted the corn fields that flitted by as I made my way through America’s heartland.
Instead of going straight to the doctor’s office, Jennifer and I decided to do what any self-respecting set of girlfriends would do….we went out for lunch. (My mom and my aunts taught me early on, to never pass by an opportunity to “lunch” with a friend. It’s truly a simple indulgence that is always worth it!) Once we had settled at our table, I looked at her and couldn’t believe what I was seeing. She was truly glowing. In spite of the fact that our daughters are invading her little body, not only protruding out in front of her, but literally stretching out of her sides, she looked beautiful. Pregnancy truly does agree with her.
After lunch, I accompanied her to meet her ob/gyn. Her doctor was a quiet man with a gentle tone. I could see right away why she likes him so much. His demeanor is a great match for hers. While I sat there and listened, however, I couldn’t help but reminisce about the appointment in which I invited Shannon to accompany me during my pregnancy with Logan. You see, even though our relationship with Jennifer was entered into willingly (we all knew what we were agreeing to do with a potential surrogacy journey), I admit my presence at her appointment still felt a tad intrusive. When Jennifer’s doctor asked me if I had any questions—and I did—it felt a little out-of-bounds to be asking them. I can’t imagine how horribly awkward Shannon must have felt while at a similar appointment with me, given that we had both been thrown into a situation that neither of us had wanted or agreed to. I remember reading in Shannon’s book that she felt like a third wheel during that appointment and I was hurt. But, I totally get it now. Interesting how time and experience renders perspective.
Jennifer continues to do well with the pregnancy. She will be 26 weeks along tomorrow which is still a surreal reality for Sean and me. Jennifer never complains about how uncomfortable she is and I know this can’t be pleasant (I mean, let’s face it. There are two of them in there and to make matters more challenging we’ve been told these girls aren’t …well…the “daintiest” little ladies.) I think about and pray for Jennifer all the time. She is truly a generous soul and a real trooper. Sean and I have been truly blessed by having her in our lives.
Please keep Jennifer and the girls in your prayers. More frequent updates will be coming as we enter into the third trimester in a couple of weeks!
Baby A stroking her sister’s face! (Or possilby polking her sister in the face? Have the twin antics already begun?)